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A guide to feeling better during a time of war, winter, and overall stress

As the year draws to an end, especially for the Jewish community this has not been an easy time. The ongoing weight of the war over the past year along with overall stresses of life on top of that have not been easy. To top it off the cold dark nights often lead one to feeling down at a time when we most need a bit of light. As a result here is a guide on how to stay calm and upbeat during times of war, stress, and cold weather.

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In difficult times, such as during periods of war, heightened stress, or harsh weather conditions, it can be challenging to maintain emotional balance. However, staying calm and upbeat is crucial for both mental and physical well-being. In this article, we explore practical strategies for managing stress, maintaining a positive outlook, and boosting resilience in the face of adversity.

1. Focus on What You Can Control

During times of war or extreme stress, much of what’s happening around you may feel beyond your control. Acknowledging this can be disempowering, but it also presents an opportunity to focus on the aspects of life you can control.

For instance, while you may not have influence over the actions of others or geopolitical events, you do have control over your daily habits, mindset, and actions. Developing routines—such as regular exercise, setting small achievable goals, and prioritizing self-care—can provide a sense of structure and stability.

2. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

Mindfulness is the practice of staying fully present and engaged in the current moment, rather than worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. Meditation is a powerful tool to cultivate mindfulness and manage stress. Even a few minutes each day can make a big difference in your ability to stay grounded.

When anxiety or fear begins to creep in, try focusing on your breath. Inhale deeply for a count of four, hold for four, and exhale for four. This simple breathing technique activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes relaxation. Meditation and mindfulness can help reduce the physical and emotional toll of stress by improving emotional regulation.

3. Stay Connected with Loved Ones

Human connection is one of the most powerful antidotes to stress. Even if you cannot be with family or friends physically, stay connected through phone calls, video chats, or social media. Sharing your thoughts, emotions, and experiences with others can help lighten your mental load.

In addition, provide support to those around you. Acts of kindness, whether big or small, can create a sense of solidarity and positivity. Helping others is not only emotionally rewarding, but it can also increase your sense of purpose and control.

4. Engage in Physical Activity

Physical exercise has numerous benefits, particularly in stressful times. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins, the "feel-good" hormones, which can naturally lift your mood. Regular physical activity can also reduce anxiety, improve sleep, and boost your immune system—vital during times of stress and cold weather.

Even if the weather is cold, there are many ways to stay active indoors. Yoga, stretching, strength training, or even simple home workouts can keep you moving and help alleviate the mental strain brought on by stress. If you're able to safely go outside, a brisk walk in nature can be refreshing and offer a temporary escape from your worries.

5. Prioritize Rest and Nutrition

When facing external challenges, it’s easy to neglect your body’s basic needs. However, maintaining a healthy diet and ensuring adequate rest are essential for staying calm and resilient. A balanced diet with a variety of fruits, vegetables, lean proteins, and healthy fats can enhance your energy levels and emotional stability.

Adequate sleep is equally important. Stress and cold weather can interfere with sleep patterns, but it’s essential to prioritize rest. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep per night. Try creating a soothing bedtime routine, limiting screen time before bed, and keeping your bedroom cool and dark to promote restful sleep.

6. Cultivate Gratitude and Positivity

During times of hardship, focusing on the negative can become overwhelming. One way to combat this is through a gratitude practice. Each day, take a moment to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, no matter how small. Writing down three things you're thankful for each day can reframe your mindset and provide a sense of hope.

Additionally, work on maintaining a positive inner dialogue. Instead of catastrophizing or assuming the worst, challenge negative thoughts with constructive, optimistic thinking. Remind yourself that tough times don’t last forever, and you have the strength to weather the storm.

7. Create Comfort and Warmth Indoors

When faced with cold weather, the physical discomfort of being cold can add an extra layer of stress. Create a warm, comforting space in your home where you can relax and unwind. Lighting candles, using cozy blankets, and making your living environment feel like a sanctuary can help elevate your mood and create a sense of security.

If you’re without heating or in extreme conditions, layering your clothing, using hot water bottles, and taking warm baths can provide comfort and reduce the stress of cold temperatures.

8. Limit Exposure to Stressful News and Social Media

While staying informed is important, excessive exposure to stressful news can heighten anxiety and feelings of helplessness. During times of war or political instability, consider limiting your media consumption and take breaks from social media. This gives you a chance to recharge and refocus your energy on the present moment.

Instead of consuming negative headlines, seek out uplifting news or inspiring stories that can boost your morale. Engage in activities that nourish your soul, like reading books, listening to music, or pursuing hobbies you enjoy.

9. Seek Professional Support If Needed

If you find yourself struggling to stay calm or upbeat, it’s important to reach out for professional help. Therapists, counselors, or mental health professionals can provide guidance on managing stress, anxiety, and depression. During challenging times, there is no shame in asking for support.

Additionally, many communities offer group support or hotlines where you can talk to others experiencing similar struggles. Having a safe space to express your emotions can help you feel less isolated.

Final Thoughts

While it’s natural to feel stressed, fearful, or down during times of war, extreme stress, or cold weather, it’s important to remember that there are steps you can take to protect your emotional well-being. By focusing on what you can control, maintaining positive connections, staying physically active, and nurturing your body and mind, you can remain resilient through life’s toughest challenges.

The key is to remain flexible, adapt to your circumstances, and always prioritize self-care. Even in the darkest times, you have the power to find moments of calm and optimism.


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